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04-19-06, 11:38 AM
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 No............hell no.  I don't give out chances.  If married, would you stay married? If single, would you still want to stay with that person?      |
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04-19-06, 11:45 AM
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I think that all depends on the quality of your relationship, and the circumstances surrounding the cheating. It is a very difficult thing to overcome...that is why the quality of the relationship is important. If it is a good relationship, then it may be worth it to identify the reasons behind the infidelity and make an effort to fix those issues. If the reasons behind the infidelity are to big or too numerous to overcome, it might be best to just move on. Why go through the pain and struggle of forgiveness, if you're just working your way back to a crappy relationship? That being said, I think I would forgive my wife if she cheated on me, but probably would not continue to be married to her.
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04-19-06, 11:48 AM
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Sure, I could forgive them, but I seriously doubt that I would be able to forget it. I think that's the biggest problem in trying to maintain a relationship with someone that's cheated on you. How could you make love to someone without thinking about the fact that there was another man doing the same thing not too long ago? Also, how could you not bring it up in a fight, etc.? You can promise yourself, and your spouse, that those things won't happen, but they most probably will...
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04-19-06, 11:54 AM
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No.
__________________ Are you: A) Female? B) Attending UTSA? Then chances are good that YOU ALMOST FREAKING KILLED ME IN THE PARKING LOT  |
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04-19-06, 11:56 AM
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04-19-06, 12:00 PM
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04-19-06, 12:07 PM
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From personal experience, no. I thought I could forgive and forget, but TJ is right, you never forget. The pain caused by infidelity is almost crippling. Living every day with the cause of that pain was ultimately too much to bear. My second husband, AKA Mr. Wonderful, had to work doubly hard to convince me he wasn't the kind of person who would ever put me through that again. It was unfair for him, but I'm sure glad he thought I was worth the effort.
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04-19-06, 12:22 PM
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once a cheater always a cheater. i have a zero tolerance policy!  |
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04-19-06, 12:25 PM
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After 25 years of marriage, my dad left my mom for another woman. They got back together about 2 years after that.
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04-19-06, 12:42 PM
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No, I hate cheaters.. Never..
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04-19-06, 01:56 PM
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'cheater' is such a harsh word......i'd like to think of a cheater as more of a venturer.....ok so maybe some hearts were broken and some tears were shed but on the look brightside, at least now you know better,.....and besides you are all looking at this from the cheetee's point of view.....try looking at it from the cheaters point of view. you may find that some cheaters are people just like you who have made decisions in the past and now regret. not that i know any of this from experience...im just guessing  |
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04-19-06, 02:26 PM
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Yeah sure Phanta .. I believe someone has to be pretty strong and look at the bigger picture to forgive someone after an incident like that...a friend of mine once told me that they did forgive their spouse after such an incident but it was hard...he said he kept having dreams about the incident... It was hard for him to get close to his sig other after what had happened..knowing someone else had had their hands on, or been intimate with someone he cared deeply about.... of course the spouse regrets that they ever made that decision...all you can do is move forward I guess... I think it takes alot of love and a strong willingness to continue.... |
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04-19-06, 03:11 PM
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HELL NO! Cheating is for the scum of the earth. Or you could just do what I did once......get back with them....make them think alllll these things and then drop their ass with no reason and make them feel like the piece of crap they are. Once a cheater always a cheater...or some other form of an idiot.
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04-19-06, 03:17 PM
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I've thought this all along, but I think I could forgive my wife one transgretion. It would be freaking hard as hell to do, but I love her, need her, want her, everything her so much that once I could live with enough to work it out with her. Would I be cramped up and sh!tting rivers for weeks? No doubt, but what we have is so great it would be worth taking a shot.
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04-19-06, 03:20 PM
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We need to talk when you get home. Sincerely, Mrs. Radley
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